Tuesday, February 25, 2014

The Problem with Altar Calls

"Here at the altar, oh my world is so black and white. How could I ever falter when You've shown me to be right..." - Casting Crowns
Last weekend I attended an evangelical event. Focus on the word evangelical. As expected in these evangelical meetups, there was bound to have an altar call at the end of the meeting. For those readers who don't know what an altar call is, it is the part near the end of the service in which the speaker normally calls for those who feel prompted to come to the front of the hall to be prayed for. Why the need to come forward? Well, it serves a dual purpose, for the convicted person, it serves as a clear decision made, and for the speaker, it serves as an easier means to gather the willing people instead of hunting for them through the crowd.

Over the years as a Christian, I've seen the altar call used for a variety of purposes. The main usage for an altar call would be to invite non-Christians who have been convicted my a message or play to come forward to receive Christ as their Lord and Savior, and I tell you whenever I see that happen, I am touched. Altar calls are also used for backsliding Christians to rededicate their live to God, for the sick to seek for healing, for the troubled needing rest, for those who want to respond to the message, and also for parents to dedicate their children to God. I am completely fine with altar calls being used as a platform for healing and dedication just as an actual altar was used in times of old, but the issue I see with modern altar calls is that their focus on the conviction of the individual has seemed to have changed to become an ego booster for the speaker or for the speaker to gauge how effective his (or her) message was. Pleasing the egos of some Billy Graham wannabe should never be the focus of giving an altar call. The altar call should always be between the individual and God. 

When evangelists like the above-mentioned Billy Graham, Billy Sunday, and Dwight L. Moody, spoke fire upon multitudes of people in their time, they didn't rate their performance by the amount of people who responded to the altar call. It wasn't about the glory, it was about God. God spoke through these humbled men, and because they were his lips, people were convicted.

The problem with altar calls in this day and age is that we have evangelists (or so-called ones) trying their best to imitate the humbled men of old. I do not say that these men are not humble, but I question their conviction and purpose of calling an altar call.

(I feel it is appropriate to include a disclaimer here before I continue: I'm not saying that God doesn't use altar calls to convict people or inspire preachers to make an altar call. I'm just saying that altar calls have somehow turned into a publicity stunt.)

Take the recent altar call I experienced. The speaker began by asking if anyone was touched by the presentation. When silence was the response, he encouraged (strongly encouraged) Christians who brought their non-believers to bring them up saying things like 'the time is NOW' and 'it's between you and God (and apparently your friend too)'. More silence led to him changing his approach to a more machine gun tactic. He called for Christians who wanted to rededicate their lives to God to come forward, he asked for parents who wanted to dedicate their children to God to come forward, he asked for those wanting to receive healing to come forward, and it went on and on until he covered every single criterion of those who needed prayer. This made me doubt the genuineness of the call. I mean, shouldn't an altar call be inspired by God since the whole purpose of an altar call is redundant without the presence of God? So if God is indeed speaking to this (with lack of another term) speaker, shouldn't his altar call bear fruit? Isn't God's voice specific?

I personally believe that God has a specific time which he chooses to convict people. It can't be forced upon a person. Someone has to come voluntarily to Him at the time he or she is ready. So if an altar call isn't the right place for that, shouldn't a speaker not push it? Because to be honest, watching preachers desperately call for people to come forward is sad. I get discouraged by it. I feel like I'm attending more of a product launch than anything.

"Step right up! God has a message JUST for you! It doesn't matter about the people beside you. This is between YOU (my ego) and God. God wants to speak to you if you have the courage to come forward (the presence of God is stronger in front here...in my presence). Do you feel that? That tingle down your spine? That is the Holy Spirit prompting you! (actually it's a matter of bringing your unconscious to the conscious, and we also downed the temperature of the air con by a tad bit.). He's waiting for you to come. Now is the time!"

Does the above sound familiar? I've sat through many altar calls directed at potential believers and when I put myself in their shoes, I know for a fact that I wouldn't be convicted. I honestly wouldn't go up and stand in front of a thousand onlooking strangers and ask the speaker to help me say the sinner's prayer. If the speaker continues to push, I'm going to run. Instead of bringing me in front of the altar, the little sales pitch will only encourage me to take two steps back.

I know that there are speakers out there who use the altar call properly and this post is not directed at them. This post just questions the (what I feel are) insincere 'evangelists' out there just trying to make a name for themselves.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Project: Begin Again



 "Friends never say goodbye..."
- The Road to El Dorado

Like a wave of uneasiness, regrets flooded my thoughts yesterday night that meant sleep was to be eluded. All the thoughts had a common theme - loss of friendship. Over my 20 over years of life, one thing that I've found most intriguing is my lack of ability to sustain friendships. I have no idea how to continue talking to a person who is not a current classmate, church friend, or co-worker. Honestly, starting a conversation with a person I have not talked to in a few months is daunting. 

What do I say? 
What can we talk about?
What is appropriate?

The beauty of social networking has been the bane. I convince myself that I am in touch with these old friends just because I read their updates, but truth be told, where is the one-to-one communication? Where is the human interaction that is so key?

My biggest fear with catching up with old friends is that I don't know what is the protocol. Talking to peers with current interests is easy. You find a topic of commonality and you shoot. Hopefully, the other will continue the same protocol and a question-answer-share cycle begins.

But isn't there another protocol for long lost friends? What do I even say to someone I haven't met in a while?
'Hi, how are you? (I know you're feeling a little low; I read your tweet)'
'What have you been up to? (I know you went to the bar the other day because of your status update)'
'Long time no see (I see your profile picture popping up on my newsfeed)'

I can't say I blame social media for my loss of friendship, but I can say that social media gives me an illusion that I still have this friendship. The problem with that is that though I am, in some ways, in constant contact with my old friends, there is no exchange of good quality conversations.

What happens when my friends are more of the reserved kind? What happens when I don't see any updates from them? I simply lose touch. I end up not knowing what this person is doing, and this troubles me.

This troubles me because I want to know how you (by you I mean all you wonderful people who I can call friends) are doing. I want to be a friend again, and this is what this post is about.

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Project: Begin Again

A cool name for a simple objective: To reconnect with lost friends within this year.

I've been terrible at maintaining friendships, and I don't want to lose the people who have been involved with my social development. So I'm taking this year to start random conversations with people whom I once called close and those that I want to be closer to.

To the people I've lost contact with because of distance. To the people I've lost contact with because of separation. To the people I've lost contact with simply because it wasn't convenient to meet anymore. To the people I've lost contact with because I didn't make an effort to maintain our friendship. I would first like to apologize, and to tell you that I'm trying to reconnect.

A Say for Today

If right-handers use their left brain, doesn't it mean that left-handers are always in the right mind??